In online dating, one of the most important tasks next to preparing personal profile is writing the first message to your prospective match. Here is some advise on how to make it well.

Choice of a candidate Be very selective, only those people whose profiles attracted your attention are worth any further effort. Keep in mind, you are looking for a multi-thousand pool of potential dates, with hundreds of newcomers every day, so if you will fail to reach one person, you will succeed with another. Moreover, even if you are getting into a promising development with one candidate, keep seeking and do exchange with others. When you will get into some real relationship, it will be better for you if you will have your options.

The challenge In a natural effort to make a good impression in the first message, many of us becoming either numb and lacking any words, or, even worst, start saying things that better not being said. How not to cross the line from decent self-presentation to a blatant (and hence repulsive) boast?

If your message is not answered, never allow yourself any hard feelings, the network is too big for getting distracted by such things. For the same time, always work on improvement of your writing. Develop your own, unique style, be creative and sincere, avoid anything which may sound too trivial and hence boring. Your message will be much more efficient if it will be written in the form of conversation.

Nothing generic! Your first message must address each candidate individually: there must be nothing generic there. It is easy to tell generic stuff: it talks about the author, not the one who receives the message. So, for the sake of success, the core of your first message must be built on the key features of your addressee profile. The aim of the first message is to provoke a conversation based on some common interests. This can be done only by asking your candidate some specific, only his (or her) profile-related questions. Of course, while asking those questions dont miss to tell a bit about yourself.

Regarding the toneIt is OK to flirt and tease (lightly) your addressee in the first message, but please, avoid anything which may be perceived radical. Not a word about sex, no claim that you are his (or her) perfect match. Seeing someone personal profile is not enough for making such claims. Keep the tone of your first message light and relaxed, almost as if you are introduced to a new business colleague.

Few extra tips It is quite possible that you will not get a reply. There may be a lot of various reasons for it, but accept only one explanation for yourself: your letter was not good enough. therefore, no matter how much you have tried earlier, you have to make your letter even better. Besides, always keep in mind that you are not the only one who wrote to this person. So, you have to make your message really outstanding, and, believe me, you will see the results. Try again and put there your very best: add intrigue to your message, ask questions and answer them for your addressee, you will get a response and the conversation will start. When this will happen, try not to stay there for a long, get offline, seek a live date! Because, after all, this is the reason why you have joined the dating network in first place.

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