We are all frustrated by the same dating patterns we’ve all got. You ask yourself, why do I end up dating the same guy always? Every boyfriend reminds me of my dad, why? The guy with the really spiky hair is the only type that approaches me, how come?

You date the same type of guy because you continue to be the same type of person. If you don’t want to date a jerk, then you need to discover whatever it is about you that attracts them and then change it.

Now sometimes people are just big, huge jerks, don’t get me wrong. But we are not talking about them, we are talking about you. You need to follow the three steps here to stop your jerk-dating pattern.

Ask a Friend: First Step

Go to your most honest friend and really ask why they think you’ve dated the same type of loser more than once. Listen to why they think that is and what they tell you.

Second Step: Being Single

From here you need to decide to be single for awhile. During this time when you are truly single, date yourself. Get to know you and learn what it is that makes you tick. Really think about what it is you’re looking for and what you need to be happy. Once you figure this out write it down, keep it in your bag, and read it every day.

Date the Antithesis: Third Step

When you feel ready to date, do yourself a favor and date someone that is nothing like your ex. Seek out someone that is different so you can get a taste for what is out there. Even if you don’t think they are your “type” you might be surprised to find that there are all kinds of people that you can connect with.

With time and self-reflection you won’t date anymore jerks. Like all challenges we face, the first step is admitting you have a problem.

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