With Valentines Day looming, the stores are full of items to buy your special someone. Lots of women will get flowers, boxes of candy, and sentimental cards from the one that they love. Many will get a small jewelry box holding a beautiful diamond ring attached with a question of commitment and moving their relationship forward.

Having someone pop the question is a memorable event for any woman. How could I resist the military saber arch my husband organized when he proposed to me? There he was waiting on one knee at the end of it, ring in hand, offering me his love and commitment through a simple question. I’m so glad I said yes that day. It was the best decision I’ve ever made.

Sadly, the joy of this event fades all too soon for many new brides as the hype and the excitement of the wedding goes away and real life together begins. All too often, women fall for the presentation of the moment, and forget to ask themselves another important question ahead of time: “Is he the right one for me?”

Today, lots of couples choose to slide instead of decide in their relationships. They become acquainted with one another and like each other enough to go out. When nothing better comes along, they continue to stay with each other. After a while, they realize they’ve gotten along okay together and decide to move in together. Sooner or later, they get married for similar reasons. It’s just easier to move the relationship forward than it is to move on and let go, opening the door for a better relationship for the both of them. Through it all, they never stopped to ask, “Is this the right one for me?”

Believe it or not, studies show that those who live together before marriage have a higher chance of divorce. Why? I think it is because of this very reason. Instead of making a conscious decision on their compatibility, these couples slid into marriage by default.

This doesn’t have to be you. As you wait for him to pop the question, take time to an equally important question. Decide if he really is the right one for you. It will make all the difference in how you remember his proposal ten years from now.

How do you do this? Your heart is too caught up in the emotion. And let’s face it, your friends and family may have your best interest at heart, but have a very partial opinion at best. What you need is unbiased data to guide your heart. Information from professionals, compatibility tests and honest self reflection are a great way to start you off on answering “Is he the right one for me?” and knowing what to do this Valentines Day.

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