In the last article of this series, I showed you why the use of humor was a matter or critical timing. In this article, the last in the series, I’ll show you another issue of timing that is just as important - your departure!

So you’ve attracted a nice young lady, and things look to be going very smooth for you. You aren’t able to continue the flirtations, but you definitely want to see her again.

So what should you do? Obviously, asking her out for another date would be the wise thing to do. But past simplifying things, it’s a matter of HOW you do it that makes it effective.

Many guys fumble here. It’s understandable in many cases, as most men aren’t in tune with what is happening during a flirtation anyhow. If you are aware, it’s rather easy to do, as you’ll know if she’s interested in you.

The most important thing to watch for are nonverbal cues. If the right ones are present, you should be able to continue with another day.

How do we do this? Simple. Be direct with her.

– “Care to meet me for coffee sometime this next week?” — “Maybe we could meet again soon. May I have your phone number?”

Being indirect about it tends to create apprehension. I’m not a big fan of saying something like “I really enjoyed talking to you and would like to do so again.” I believe in getting to the point of the matter.

If you’ve made a strong enough impression, you might be lucky enough for her to ask YOU for your number. That happening is really rare though - so definitely don’t count on it! And sometimes when this happens, she is trying to actually get rid of you!

A sneaky trick that might be worth trying is to let her know that you like a woman who isn’t constrained by societal rules. Be it a “free spirit”, or a liberated woman, acknowledging that it is acceptable to be that way might just convince her to close you. But again, don’t count on it.

Be confident. Be direct. If you do your work you’ll have little fear of being rejected.

This concludes this part of the series on flirting. In the next article, I’ll discuss how to put it all together - the verbal and non verbal aspects of flirting, and how you should go about practicing them.

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