Even the once-most-bonded of soul-mates can feel trapped in a stale marriage as the years pass. Though we still love our mate, we might feel bored with the routine. Don’t just rekindle that burned out match, or fan the flames, add kerosene to the fire of it, and use Valentine’s as a celebration of love, a reason to try something different, and then make it a habit, a new way of life to change the parameters and depth of the relationship. These tips are tried and true and have worked for many couples.

Touch or carress or both, at least once that night. Hug her (or him). Say I love you, even if it feels a bit shaky at first and you haven’t said it in awhile. Go dancing. Whether it is going dancing or giving each other a “private gift certificate” for a mutual massage that night. Don’t just write the certificates, do it. Or really go dancing, slow dancing, or both. Hold hands window shop at the mall. Ask your significant other to pick out something he or she has been wanting. And buy it. A public show of affection can have a powerful influence. Even though you may be thinking now more of the others bad habits than their romantic touch, this is not the day to be thinking of that. It is a day to celebrate the romantic part. And try to remember it. Taking a day to celebrate it in a fun way, will surelyi help do that.

Make dinner a celebration. Conjure the most exotic dish you can make. If you are not a born-cook, find a recipe and go by it. The spicier the better. Why not some tandoori chicken or French meal in a wonderful creme sauce. If you don’t cook much, find a cookbook or download a recipe from the net, for for this romantic occasion. It is worth it. Don’t tell your partner or spouse that you are planning it, only that you are going to cook because it is Valentine’s day. They may be expecting a t-bone steak but this time try an exotic spicy ethnic dish, perhaps some wine, and candlelight with soft music in the background. If you feel uncomfortable in the kitchen, make a formal invitation to dress up and go out to an elegant little French bistro or Italian restaurant. Just make it fun and different than the regular routine meal. Watch her (or him) smile in amazement. Send a surprise gourmet lunch to your loved one’s workplace. Order it over the phone, pay by credit card and send it from “A secret admirer”. When your mate reveals the surprise, just smile and say, “I love you, honey.” (or whatever term of endearment you use or used to use).

Sexy underwear is a must for both. If you are a woman, perhaps a thong rather than your every day panties, and perhaps a nice negligee over it (or no negligee at all, only the thong which will be revealed later). If you are a male, have on sexy boxers or bikini shorts. If you love humor and to laugh but don’t do so very often anymore, wear something both sexy and humorous under your work clothes. Don’t show this until after your dinner hopefully, with dim lighting and soft music in the background. Make it a show. There are several online stores that carry funny sexy underwear. One is A Thong In My Heart, Victoria’s Secret has some, and others. Watch how fast this can bring back those old almost-forgotten passionate feelings. Try not to get too nervous. If you do, it doesn’t even matter. Tonight is a night of fun and trying new things. Well, actually old things that you may have gotten out of the habit of doing.

It may not sound like much, but a few of these little things can work magic to fuel the fire of an old relationship that feels stifling. Just try a few and see what happens. You will want to do it again and again, even when it is not Valentine’s Day. And that’s a good thing.

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