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Relationship Advice - 3 Keys To Intimacy
Posted at May 1st, 2009 in Relationship Advice
Intimacy has been studied over time in relationships. Is there more or less of it? These studies look at various intimacy measures like touch and physical proximity, among other issues. Unsurprisingly, these studies find that the experience of intimacy decreases over time.
This means that the longer you are in a relationship, the less intimacy you are likely to experience as a couple. Over a long period of time, you can end up feeling more like roommates.
Of course, it doesn’t need to happen this way. There are actually many steps you can take to improve the experience of intimacy over time in your marriage. 3 of these steps are as follows:
Key One: Have more small talk. Thats right. Small talk between couples has been shown to be an important factor in intimacy. The more small talk, the less big fights couples tended to have. And further, the more small talk, the more satisfaction couples reported with their marriages.
Key Two: Physical factors. Touching your partner, hugging them, looking them in the eye makes a difference in the reported experience of intimacy between partners. Over time, all these physical indicators of intimacy occur less often. So try these easy things: look your partner in the eye when you talk. Try to have six nonsexual hugs or touches each day. These things make a difference in the closeness couples feel and report.
Intimacy Factor Three: Gratitude and appreciation. The more you each take some time to appreciate what you’ve got, the more intimacy you will experience and feel. It’s normal to think of what’s missing or what’s wrong. Finding three things a day you appreciate about your life and your mate helps you to express more affection, which leads to more feelings of intimacy.
Lots of things affect our experience of intimacy in relationship. These three are just a start, a simple set of factors you can practice daily that will add more affection and intimacy to your relationship.
Additionally, there is a lot more relationship intelligence like this that is easy to learn that will add to the quality of your love life. Developing intimate relationship skills now can help you for years into the future.
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