You’ve been moping around long enough. Now it’s time to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and get back in the land of the living. It’s time to start dating again. He might have really broken your heart but you can’t keep on nursing your wounds with Ben and Jerry’s indefinitely.

Sure, putting your heart back on the line is a huge risk and something that cannot be done easily. It’s not to be taken lightly, especially if the hurt is new. However, being scared isn’t going to cut it; not if you want to make the most out of your life. Sometimes, you just need to grin and bear it, and eventually, things will get easier. With that said, it is essential that the very first date you have after a breakup should not be about a serious search for your next relationship. It should be about having fun and maybe finding someone who you can have a great time with.

You have to set things straight from the get go and make it clear that you’re not looking for a serious relationship. This fact should be clear not only to your date, but to you as well. You might get tempted to form a relationship from one of your first dates, but always remember that rebound relationships seldom last. It might be fun for a while, but soon you’ll have to deal with another heartbreak.

So, why date if you’re not looking for a commitment?

There is a nasty rumor floating around out there that the only reason to go out with a guy is to find a potential husband. Now is the perfect time to explore the idea of dating for the fun of it. Go out with a guy because you like his accent, want to drive his car, or simply because he likes great action flicks. You get to choose who you want to date and why. It’s amazing how empowering this is and what it can mean for how you view dating in the future.

Searching for a potential spouse isn’t the only reason you need to date. Love usually happens even when you’re not searching for it. Try dating someone even though he’s not exactly your ideal guy and you might get pleasantly surprised and find out he’s perfect for you. These little twists are what make life so delightful.

Explore, have fun, start dating again, and you’ll discover a lot of things you might not be aware of because you’re limiting yourself. Meet new people and be better prepared when you’re already ready for a more serious relationship.

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