With all the single women out there, and the thousands of different things you could say when introducing yourself, you’d think it would be easy to meet a woman. However, most men struggle with what to say after “Hi.” They fear that awkward pause as it becomes clear you have absolutely nothing to say and basically just thought she was hot. Never fear, however, today we introduce the Opinion Opener, as popularized by Neil Strauss and Mystery several years ago.

Opinion openers work because they recognize two key truths about women: they love to talk and are very opinionated. By asking the women their opinion on something, you have a built in conversation piece to talk about, and can occupy any awkward silences that can come up the first few minutes.

Picture yourself in a bar, on your way to approach a group of three women. One thing you might say is:

“Hey guys, I need a quick opinion on something, before I get back to my friends. Do you think if a guy invites a girl to a ball, he should pay for her ticket?” They’ll usually say yes.

Continue with “Well get this, my friend invited his girlfriend to a Halloween ball, and she wants him to pay for her ticket, her sister’s ticket to tag along, and to reimburse her for her costume. Do you think that’s fair?”

Almost always the women will say “Noooo, nooo!” and tell you that he should drop the gold digging bimbo. From there you can go down conversational threads such as how much a woman can expect from her man, and vice versa. You are now in a steady conversation with them. Do not stay on the topic for too long, though. Make sure to move to some other conversation piece or they will get bored and say, “Well, there’s your answer.”

Other questions could be:

“My friend’s starting a glam rock band and he needs a name for it. What do you think is a better name, The Red Rokkers or SexJam?”

“My friend Natasha has been talking to this guy online for like 3 months, had a great connection, and they were going to meet, but she just saw a recent photo of him and he’s -ugh looking. What should she do?”

Begin each opinion opener with a “Hey guys, I need a quick opinion” and include a false time constraint. If you make it clear you’re not going to stay there forever, women will feel more comfortable because they know by talking to you, they’re not committing to you hitting on them all night.

The best use of opinion openers is for guys that aren’t used to going up to women that regularly. Women are usually likely to comply with an opinion opener even if they’re not sold on the guy yet, so it’s great practice for beginners. Remember that it may sound awkward to use these at first, but just keep doing it, and it will be very natural.

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