Like most of my counterparts, at times I sit and contemplate why most of the time men don’t call when they say they will. These are the times when the mind gets flooded with questions like ‘Is he playing games with me?, ‘Is something else going on in his mind?’ or ‘Is it just another trick to attract more attention? The entire day passes by and the eye keeps rolling over the phone again and again expecting his call. The long wait finally turns into frustration and ultimately into rejection.

There can be various reasons why men don’t call when they say they will. It can sometimes be as simple as being too busy at work, the extreme forgetfulness or in the worst case an intentional plan. Whatever the reasons, for a woman the whole situation can be quite unnerving and disastrous. Under extreme circumstances, the entire state of affairs can be very sad and even lead to breakups.

It is not always fair to be negative and get back to wrong conclusions. If your man doesn’t call does not necessarily mean that he does not care for you. Any man who is doing so definitely has a reason for doing it. In rare cases, it is also seen that men are really busy at work and they are so engrossed in their occupation that the concept of calling his woman rests at the back of his mind. Though, this reason is not quite acceptable as he can always steal a minute from his busy schedule to give you a small call to avoid all misunderstandings.

Although we all profess to not want to game play; until you become secure in any relationship it is automatic. A man may intentionally not call after saying he will to determine your reaction. With this knowledge on his side he can determine his importance in your life. Men are sensitive creatures and use all their powers to defend their feelings until they have a complete sense of security. These tests are fine at the beginning of a relationship but if they persist it becomes unacceptable behavior and should be treated as such.

Women too can play the game. You first need to determine the real importance to you of his call. If it was a first or second date that should be fairly easy. Later in a relationship is is easier to have hurt feelings. If a call was not made after a reasonable time – say several days – and then you receive one you may want to use voice mail as a buffer. Let the call be answered and don’t return it for a couple of days yourself. At that point if you get his voice mail – no problem – just say things are hectic and give him a time to call you back. This agin is only for early relationships. If his behavior persists and after several dates he does not call regularly, it is best to move on and not waste your time. This type of man can be a constant headache.

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