Dating again after a painful breakup might seem like the last thing you want to do. Seriously, who would willingly march into the lion’s den, right? The problem is that part of the healing process is to get out there and risk it all over again by dating after a breakup.

So, how do you talk yourself into going out there and doing it all over again when everything inside of you is screaming “don’t do it?”

Initiate the plan by talking to yourself in front of the mirror. If this sounds crazy to you, you can have a good internal dialogue with yourself. Tell yourself that it’s time for you to move out from the bunk and start meeting new nice people again.

But if doesn’t sound convincing, try a more aggressive strategy. Go on a date without convincing yourself first. It can be a little harder especially if you’ve got no one in mind. If you’ve got a prospect, ask this person out. It’s better to find out earlier whether the invitation will be dumped or accepted. At least you can move to the next person if the first prospect turns down your invitation.

But if you really got no one in mind to date, you can give a speed dating a try. Maybe you’ll like the face-to-face encounter. But if not, you can still opt to something less personal - something like internet dating and social networking sites. This will give you the broader chance to look for someone of the same interests before really getting into the actual date.

It also gives you the chance to learn a little about the person on the other side of the computer screen before you decide to make it a date and meet face to face. More importantly, when you’re sifting through dating profiles and creating a profile of your own you are taking action to put yourself back in the game. This is much better than sitting on the sidelines waiting for something to happen.

These two steps can be difficult especially if the pain is still intense. But by forcing yourself into, who know? It might become easier in no time.

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