Let’s turn back the clock. You’ve gone on your first date with a woman. It went pretty well, but you’re not exactly sure how she feels about you. First dates are first impressions right? Unless you totally blew it, the chances of rounding up that second date with your lady, are probably a lot better than you may think.

Write down what you did on your first date, and something you liked about each event. This is an invaluable bit of information for the follow-up phone call. Recalling specific details of the date is a very subtle way of showing interest in your lady.

Secondly, do an exercise to build your confidence. Talking to yourself in the mirror, doing jumping jacks to gain adrenaline, or calling a friend to gain confidence, are all good ways to conjure up the big man on campus in you for that call. This is an important step, but don’t take it too far! cockiness, is a major turn off for women!

Pick up the phone and go for it! Choosing to identify who you are promptly will lessen any potential confusion as to whom she is speaking with, and keep your self-confidence intact. Talk about her and her day, and how she has been since the first date with you. It’s a known fact that we all like to be the center of attention, we all like to know there is someone interested in our well-being. Be sure to show interest by asking questions, but not so many that you seem to be prying. Women like men who know how to listen, and seem interested enough to ask questions.

Now for the fun part! Ask her what her plans are several days from now. Try to give enough time for her to prepare for the date. Women prefer to pick out their attire days in advance so they can make changes as they see fit. If she says she has no plans, simply ask her if she’d like to go out with you again. Don’t say, ”second date”. Those words may be too official for her, and scare away. ”Going out”, is a much more casual way to ask. If she has plans, state what the purpose of the call is. Tell her that you had a lot of fun when you went out, and you’re wondering if she’d like to go out with you sometime. Make sure, you ask in a very casual manner.

Great if her answer was yes! Perhaps this isn’t the way it played out, however. Keep your chin up. Give her your number and tell her to call when she has some free time if she’s interested in hooking up again. Sometimes women like to play hard to get. She may call at some future time, when she feels more in control of the situation, or she may not call at all. In any event, continue to live your life, without waiting by the phone, or forgetting to exhale.

If she didn’t sound that interested, or time passes and there is no call, it’s okay. Begin again. Think about your conduct on that first date. What were you wearing? Were there any uncomfortable moments? If you did everything right as far as you know, and still there is no second date in sight, then move on. Maybe life just has someone else better suited for you in the future. Use the experience of this passed first date to perfect your next first date. Learn from it and go forward. Give it another shot with someone else.

Most importantly, always be who you are. Never try to be what you might think someone else would like you to be. Not starting out on an honest note, the likelihood of you and anyone making it to the second date are slim. Always be a good, kind, and polite person. Stay involved in the date. Try something new! Following this suggestions, I’m sure that the second date will be easy to rope in.

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