Maybe you have been trying hard to get your ex back and called and left 100 messages. You’ve left long heartfelt messages and short begging notes, and they still aren’t returning your calls. How can you ever get your lover back if they refuse to talk to you?

If your ex won’t talk to you, what can you do? Rather than try gimmicks or tricks like stalking them so you can bump into them at the supermarket, I recommend honesty and sincerity. So if they aren’t calling you back, you can do a few different things:

You can call them and leave a final message which offers them a deal. If they will give you ten minutes of their time, you’ll stop texting and leaving endless voice mails. So then, can they please call you back? You don’t need to beg or plead or threaten them, and you want to sound (and be) respectful, sincere and honest. Oftentimes your ex will call you back, just because of the promise of no more nagging or begging phone messages!

If they don’t respond to that message, you can send them a short letter offering the same bargain. They may want you to suffer a little bit, but after a day or two you can often get a response from them, depending, of course, on how difficult and upsetting the break up was.

Once you’ve called and left a message or sent a note, give them a day or two to get back to you. And if they don’t call you, and upsetting as it may be, it’s okay. This obviously happens. Each break up is unique as to what caused it and how damaging emotionally it was. Getting your ex back is a process you have to dance with.

So if they don’t get back to you after a sincere, honest, respectful voice mail or letter, you may need to give them a week or two of No Contact. Sometimes, to get your ex back, you have to give them the space and quiet time on their own to grieve or begin to forgive and let go of what happened. So if you give them some time, you can then try the two steps above again.

It may seem like a week is forever, but giving your ex some space can work magic for letting them begin to let go of their emotional upset. And giving them a week or two of no contact can show a lot of respect, that you got their “message” and aren’t going to bug them.

So give it a week of NO CONTACT and then make a call. You can often move towards getting your ex back with a little patience. If they still dont get back to you, there are some more detailed steps you can take by sending them a particular type of apology and/or reconnect letter.

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