At the end of your first date, you will always bump into the question of kissing. You may want to kiss or you can be reluctant about it, there is no way you can avoid dealing with it. There are simple kisses that don’t mean very much and serious kisses that will be really engaging emotionally. Kissing is a delicate issue because it is an intimate thing to do. It shows trust, as your eyes are closed and your neck exposed. Kissing can stir up your feelings as well.

Because it is such an intimate act, some people see kissing as a prelude to sex, and will kiss only if they are prepared to go all the way. Others think kissing is an activity in itself, having no connection to sex. They can kiss for hours, and then say goodnight. So it is really important to know the difference between a quick kiss that has no deeper meaning and a serious kiss.

You must know you are not obligated to kiss when saying goodbye. You can give your date a hug, which is similar to a kiss in lot of ways. A hug can have a quite wide range of different meanings, from friendship to passion, depending on duration ant the position of your bodies. Or you have the option of shaking hands: with this gesture your message is that you don’t want to move too fast. Handshaking can be misinterpreted, as your date can think you are too cold.

Scientists studying kisses know about 25 different kinds of kisses, each having its own message. You are not a scientist and your date neither, so you don’t have to know each way of kissing. There is no doubt you can kiss without having specialized studies in the field. However, there is an important difference between a serious kiss and quick kiss.

If you meet someone and kiss him/her on the cheek, that’s a quick kiss. Quick kisses are quite common in some countries. If your date gives you a quick kiss at the end of the night it means he/she doesn’t want to get involved in anything serious. Therefore you should say goodbye and go home. If your date gives you a kiss on your cheek when you meet, be prepared for more to come.

A serious kiss is a kiss that you can see coming. There is a lot of tension in the air, and you will be able to read from your date’s body language this is on his/her mind. A serious kiss is sensual, but not necessarily sexual. However, sex can be the next step. Your lips are only the initiators of the serious kiss: it quickly becomes is a full-body experience.

Men see serious kissing as the prelude to sex. However, a lot of women don’t think about serious kissing that it has to end in the bed. They can kiss for quite long time, and then just go away, leaving the disappointed men behind.

There are certain signs that will tell you a kiss is on the way: the air is sizzling, you are facing each other, quietly looking into each other’s eyes.

But remember, kissing is not mandatory. There are other ways to say goodbye, like shaking hands, hugging or even waving at each other.

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