For most men, being romantic doesn’t come naturally. In fact, as much as we try to “be cool”, romance often makes guys down right nervous. It might be comforting to know, however, that those guys who seem to have it all together about women also get nervous sometimes when it’s time to turn on the romance. Its just part of the way men and women are wired that girls naturally seem drawn to romance and guys have to work to get there.

The good news is that if other guys have learned how to say just the right things to the girl they adore, you and I can too. It’s just a matter of knowing the secret of romance and getting prepared for when the moment comes. And the fact that you are reading this article shows that you are indeed getting ready.

How often have you been watching some romantic movie with your girl and the handsome devil on the screen comes up with the perfect words to say that turns his girl into a love making machine? We are actually surrounded by romantic thoughts in the movies, on TV, in the songs we listen to and on the greeting cards we buy for Valentines Day or for birthdays. So is it a good idea to just memorize some romantic sayings and have your list on three by five cards ready to use when you want the date to make that transition from fun and light socializing to true romance and passion?

It’s not cheating to get ready in advance to please your girl with sweet words of romance. When you think about it, few of us think romantic thoughts as we go through our days at work or at school. So when you change your focus from the mundane world to the world of romance on your date that night, you have to be able to shift how you think so romance naturally comes out of you. Keeping romantic ideas and verses written down to read through while you prepare for being with her gets your mind going down the right path so when you are with her, you know better how to tell her how you feel.

But there is a “trick” to how to say just the right thing to your girl. It has to be natural and it has to be from your heart. Don’t just show up at the door of your next date, produce your three by five card and read the refrain from the last song you saw bring tears to her eyes. That would be awkward and, well, phony. And being phony is actually quite a bit worse than not saying anything romantic at all.

Genuine romantic words that really work start with a romantic feeling you have inside you. Then you simply use some of the ways of speaking you have learned to put syllables around those feelings. When the words come out that express what you really feel about her, they may not be sonnets of Shakespeare. But they will be your real feelings and she will know that and love you for it.

Girls have a natural feeling for when you are being real with them and when you are being phony. So by starting from your genuine feelings and letting them flow out in expressions of affection, admiration and romance, you will come up with the “right” thing to say and say it at the exactly right time. It’s like using “the force” from Star Wars. You will know how to do it right if you follow that inner voice.

Now its gong to take some presence of mind when you know the time is right and you must muster the courage to let that love out from inside you. For girls romance is about love and sweetness but many times it takes a real man with some real guts to tell her how you feel. But think how many times the thought was in your head like “I never want this date to end.” You know it has been here. But you cover it up because guys are just as good at hiding our feelings as girls are about expressing theirs. So the transition you must make is not to push down that romantic thought but to build on it and then finally let it out.

Maybe it will be that next time you and she are sharing an intimate moment and you feel all her affection coming your way that you want to stay in that moment forever. Don’t let that moment pass but somehow find the path between the feeling inside and your mouth. But when the words come out and you experience the explosion of loving from your girl, you may never want to stop this flow of romantic words you can give to your sweetheart.

Finding the right thing to say inside is opposite from just learning how to say phrases that are romantic from the movies, love songs or other people. You have a bumper crop of romantic ideas in your heart that just have not let out yet. But once you train your mind and heart to let your sweetheart know your feelings and desires, you will naturally become a guy who can use romantic words with the best of them. But your romantic thoughts won’t just be empty phrases, they will be genuine expressions of real romance that you and your lover experience together.

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