If you are hoping to win back your ex, you will have to handle it very delicately. It’s important to know that her feelings and yours are hurting and that they still are, even if you’re feeling OK right now. Great care must be taken so that you can avoid triggering the arguments that caused you to break apart.

Here are some suggestions:

It really helps to reflect on the reason for the breakup and whether changes are possible that will improve your relationship. Can you do anything to guarantee that further breakups will not occur in the future? Compromise will certainly be needed. Will it be possible for you to live with them? Will she accept them? Knowing why the breakup happened will help you to avoid triggering the usual conflicts when you first try to get her back.

Two things will be necessary that will contradict each other. On the one hand, it’s essential for you to keep in touch with her. On the other, you mustn’t overdo your efforts because this will scare her away. In fact, contact with her should be reduced but not completely stopped.

You should make it known very casually that you would like her to be a part of your life. Your contacts with her must be relaxed, laid back, and not too frequent. Email her an occasional “how’s it going?” message but don’t jam up her inbox because you will seem to be needy or desperate.

Find innocent and safe ways that demonstrate that she is still in your thoughts. Show her that she matters to you by remembering the important dates in her life such as anniversaries. Send a card on her birthday and on holidays.

It is vital that you not become isolated from the rest of the world. Go out with your friends and keep an active social life. This enables you to feel confident and positive. You don’t want your ex to think that you have come unglued because of the breakup.

You should be showing her that you’re just fine but that you still care about her. This allows her to reassess the good times that you had together without feeling pressured.

Finally you should work to become friends with her again. This will reacquaint her with the fun things that you did together and will build trust. The trust will strengthen over time and bring you closer together and hopefully something deeper will develop.

There’s no precise method or formula to getting your ex back but these suggestions should get you off to a good start. Maintaining the lines of communication is essential but it should be relaxed and subtle. Get too intense about it and she’ll be pushed away.

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