If you have been through a break up and desperately want to get your ex girlfriend back take a step back for a minute and ask yourself why you feel so lost without your ex. Have you been thinking thoughts like:

I’ll be completely useless without her. She was everything to me. She was the best thing that ever happened to me. There’s no one else as good as her. I’ll never be happy without her.

These thoughts are not of any value to you right now and they really aren’t true either. You will be happy again even if it’s without your ex, and if you don’t understand this you are going to have a hard time regardless of whether you succeed in getting your ex girlfriend back.

If you continue to think that you won’t make it without your girlfriend, or that you are afraid of being alone, then you will encounter problems not only in this relationship but in any relationship from now on. The truth is you have to be OK with yourself first. Not only will you be a happy guy but self confidence is one of the things that will make you most attractive to your ex girlfriend and to all women in general.

So if the reasons above are the only ones you have for wanting to get your ex girlfriend back you need to ask yourself whether you really do need her or you need to find yourself instead.

You deserve to have a relationship based on love, not on need. Although many romantic movie cliches portray romantic love as two people who profess how much they need each other, this is a co-dependent type of relationship instead of the healthy relationship two complete people who choose to share a life together can have.

So even if you feel more needy that loving right now, that’s OK. Take this time and work on yourself and allow real love for your ex to surface. You can choose to love instead of being clingy and this will give you the confidence you need to give you ex some space and room to breath right now. And it will give you time to reflect and plan before you make your next move to get her back.

When you choose to let go of the needy thoughts and feelings and focus instead on the things you love about your ex girlfriend and some of the positive reasons why you want to get back together you will be amazed at how much better you feel about yourself. And this is a much SMARTER way to go about getting your ex girlfriend back!

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