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Get Your Ex Back Without Waiting Weeks
Posted at Mar 31st, 2009 in Relationship Advice
A lot of the current wisdom on how to get your ex back rely on the same advice: wait a month, let them cool off, then contact them. The theory is that after 30 days they will have stopped being so mad at you and be more open to reconnecting.
This advice is based on the idea that time heals all wounds. That after a month or so they won’t be so mad and may even feel like forgiving you some.
The get your ex back by waiting 30 days approach can work in some situations. And it can also backfire. Your ex’s anger can fester and their heart can harden towards you. And they might start seeing someone else, which will make it very hard to have them reattach their affections towards you.
To try to avoid these issues, you will need an entirely different approach. Every break up is different and unique, but there are three main reasons that relationships end. You wronged them, they wronged you, or they’re just not that into you anymore. While each of these reasons requires a different reconnect method, each one can often be repaired in a matter of hours or days, not weeks.
Let’s say you cheated on your ex and they kicked you out last week. They feel betrayed and like they can never trust you again. This is completely understandable.
To get them back more quickly, you need to understand that feelings change. In a month, maybe a year, they will get over and won’t be mad forever.
The second thing to understand is that you can help their feelings change. This is the key to getting your ex back fast instead of waiting weeks. You can help them to get over their negative feelings towards you. There are a couple of ways of doing this. One is with a certain kind of apology (yes, there are different kinds!) and another way is to let them vent or get the feelings off their chest.
Combine these two methods and you can often have a breakthrough in getting your ex back fast. They can release their bad feelings and start to move towards wanting you back. You can often get your ex back in hours or days if you apologize in a certain way and help them to vent their bad feelings. You don’t need to wait months.
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