Your ex dumped you and you want them back. So you’ve called and made a powerful apology about what you did wrong. Now what do you say to get them to give you another chance?

A good first thing to realize is that each break up is different. You can’t make a blanket rule about what to say or do. You have to feel it out with your ex.

For example, if your ex dumped you because you were too controlling, you can’t try to force them to take you back. You’ve apologized sincerely and they seem like they may be open to taking you back. If you are too demanding they will think you haven’t changed much.

So you say something natural like “Will you give us a second chance so I can show you I’ve changed?” That’s obvious and normal. Here’s where you have to be wise. You’ve given them the ball. Let them have it. Let them be in charge for the reconnect.

Understand that asking them to give you a second chance is a very big deal. They left you because of some strong negative feelings over whatever happened. This is an important issue.

Your ex has to take the time to feel the situation through. Weigh the pros and cons. They don’t want to make a mistake and take you back only to start feeling bad again.

The wise thing to do is to let them have control of the reconnect. Ask them to give you a second chance and feel the situation out. If they seem unsure and seem to need time to think about it, don’t be pushy. Ask if you can check in with them tomorrow. If they seem more willing, you can ask to come talk about it with them now.

Your job is to make a sincere apology and then ask them to take you back. That’s your part. Then give them control, feel them out, let them be in charge of when and how to take you back.

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