A tremendous issue I deal with when it comes to my students is this: the looks issue. Several of them think they are just too ugly to attract a nice looking woman.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

Some guys think they’re too old.

Some think they’re too fat.

Some think they’re too short.

Some think they’re too ugly.

Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.

But lucky for all of us - this simply isn’t the case.

I want to take a moment and dispell a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.

Myth #1 - You have to be good looking to get women.

All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case.

Here’s one of my rules of thumb: It’s important to look good. It’s NOT important to be good looking!

The difference?

Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

All these appearance factors contribute to “looking good.”

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 - Women Think Like Men Do

It’s natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.

For instance - If you’ve ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.

To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticable.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.

WRONG.

A woman is going to have a different set of criteria for determining what attracts them to us than we do to them. Sure, the physical plays a part of that, but it’s far less important for them than it is us.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

I’ll explore more of these myths in Part 2!

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