These days it seems like the relationships we have with the ones we love are so fragile, it hardly takes anything to shatter them. The list of possible relationship killers is a mile long, but really it’s not so bad. Most of the biggest culprits are avoidable or fixable, and in the interest of helping you out with any relationship troubles you may be having, I’m going to list off the “Big 6.”

1) Unfaithfulness is a supreme destroyer of relationships…nothing really wounds a person so much as when his/her partner isn’t happy enough at home that he/she decides to go looking for what’s missing in other places. Cheating on your lover is probably the coldest, most hurtful thing you can do to a person and usually results in nigh-unfixable breakups…so the best way to deal with the problem is to never have it in the first place.

2) Neglecting your partner’s feelings is another really hurtful thing that can cause a breakup, and in fact does a lot of the time. People have emotions, even the guys who like to act like they don’t so much…and it really hurts when they’re never considered by the person whom the love the most. Always listen to your partner, and be considerate of how he/she feels.

3) I don’t think anyone in today’s world is naive enough to think that fights are never going to happen, but although they may not be the end of the world if they’re handled properly they can cause some real troubles if they’re not dealt with as they should be. If you fly off the handle and really cause trouble during fights, they’re going to destroy your relationship instead of helping it. Use fights as constructive devices to find out how your partner feels about things and express your own feelings, not as a way to be as hurtful as possible.

4) I know it’s hilarious in the movies to see a comedy actor’s face go white with fear when he sees that the number on his cell phone’s Caller ID is his control-freak wife, but in the real world an overbearing partner can really add a lot of stress to a relationship and strain the “victim” to the limits. As much as your partner may love you, you don’t want him to get fed up with constant harassment or end up dreading talking to you. Without trust, a relationship will fail…so let go of the reins a bit before the poor person starts running for his/her life!

5) Lack of spontanaeity and fun can be as deadly to a relationship as any other problem, but in my opinion it’s the most tragic of all the reasons a couple could break up. No relationship should be allowed to dissolve due to boredom and lack of interest…you two people love each other, so it’s a horrible shame to think that you could separate simply from lack of “fun.” Don’t freak out and become clingy, but make time for each other and do things you both really enjoy. Keep the relationship alive by feeding it good times and warm feelings.

6) Annoying habits in small numbers can be almost endearing, but when they start to take over it can be a serious problem. Usually just having a bad habit of biting your nails or tapping your foot won’t end a relationship, but when these things are a blatant constant and in larger numbers than just two or three, they can add a lot of stress that can make normally minor problems impact your partner a lot more. Everyone has a few bad habits, but in the interest of peacekeeping it’s a good idea to try to ease up on the things that really drive your partner crazy.

This list is by no means the end-all definition of everything that can hurt a relationship, but it covers the biggest offenders and can get you thinking in the right fashion to figure out whatever may be hurting YOUR relationship. If you’re currently going through a nasty breakup yourself, thinking about these things and others like them could clue you in as to what’s wrong with your relationship and even how to fix it and get your ex back.

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